CouplesNotes » Relationships http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress The place for relationship rescue and repair Tue, 27 Dec 2011 04:54:47 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 It Matters More Than You Know http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2011/12/it-matters-more-than-you-know/ http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2011/12/it-matters-more-than-you-know/#comments Mon, 12 Dec 2011 20:29:48 +0000 Merry Frons http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/?p=859 Do you get coffee for your partner or spouse in the morning?  How often to you show affection to your partner? Generosity in your relationship matters more than you know. Those are the findings of a a recent study of 2,870 men and women in the Virginia National Marriage Project reported in the New York . . . → Read More: It Matters More Than You Know]]> Do you get coffee for your partner or spouse in the morning?  How often to you show affection to your partner? Generosity in your relationship matters more than you know. Those are the findings of a a recent study of 2,870 men and women in the Virginia National Marriage Project reported in the New York Times.
The happiest marriages were the ones with the highest generosity scores. This is not as self-evident as it seems. It’s all too easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of demands and obligations and lose sight of the generous impulse toward our partner. Take the quiz in the article and let me know if you agree.

]]> http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2011/12/it-matters-more-than-you-know/feed/ 0 Bringing Back the Erotic Charge http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2010/10/bringing-back-the-erotic-charge-2/ http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2010/10/bringing-back-the-erotic-charge-2/#comments Fri, 08 Oct 2010 18:13:45 +0000 Merry Frons http://frons.com/?p=217 One of the most common situations that comes up in marriage counseling sessions is when one partner’s desire for sex is much lower than the other’s. Many times this happens when couples have been together for some time and have gotten into a lifestyle that is routine and perhaps, child centered. When there’s a lot . . . → Read More: Bringing Back the Erotic Charge]]> One of the most common situations that comes up in marriage counseling sessions is when one partner’s desire for sex is much lower than the other’s. Many times this happens when couples have been together for some time and have gotten into a lifestyle that is routine and perhaps, child centered. When there’s a lot of saftey in a relationship there is often a decrease in the erotic charge. How to bring that back is often what motivates couples to seek therapy.

There’s a good article on this subject in Web MD. One of the important points is that we make assumptions about what our partner enjoys sexually based on the early days of the relationship, not taking into account that desires change over time. Asking questions and being open to finding out what interests your partner are strategies that seem simple but are often overlooked.

]]> http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2010/10/bringing-back-the-erotic-charge-2/feed/ 0 Facebook and the Green-eyed Monster http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2009/10/facebook-and-the-green-eyed-monster/ http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/2009/10/facebook-and-the-green-eyed-monster/#comments Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:42:26 +0000 Merry Frons http://www.couplesnotes.com/wordpress/?p=435 Does Facebook contribute to jealousy and other relationship problems? The answer according to recent research studies says that it does. How can one use social networking and not experience problems in their primary relationship. Open communication is key. Let your partner know who you’re communicating with. Don’t use facebook in a way that it functions . . . → Read More: Facebook and the Green-eyed Monster]]> Does Facebook contribute to jealousy and other relationship problems? The answer according to recent research studies says that it does. How can one use social networking and not experience problems in their primary relationship. Open communication is key. Let your partner know who you’re communicating with. Don’t use facebook in a way that it functions as a relationship exit. This means that spending quality time with your partner takes precedence over time in front of the computer screen. Daily face to face time spent catching up on each other’s day is important to maintain connection and positive regard. Limit the amount of time spent on the computer when you’re at home so that it doesn’t create tension and problems in your relationships.

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