Therapists’ offices are filling with couples who are finding . . . → Read More: Are You a Retrosexual?]]> An article in the Boston Phoenix by Deidre Fulton,
has added yet another word to the internet generation cultural-sexual lexicon. Retrosexual is the new term for people who reconnect with someone from their past (high school sweetheart, college crush) and the reunion becomes romantic or physical.

Therapists’ offices are filling with couples who are finding that its not just match.com that they worry about – it’s reunion.com and all the other sites designed to put people back in touch (no pun intended).

It’s one thing if you’re single and this is another option for dating material. The problem is when a spouse’s starts to communicate with someone from the past. It’s especially a problem if the first contact wasn’t noted in the ‘how was your day’ conversation. “I didn’t think anything about it,” doesn’t really fly when the contact is a blonde, beautiful neurosurgeon who just happens to be in town for a convention and has suggested meeting for a drink to catch up. The reconnect can be interpreted in various ways, some of which are not good for the marriage.

So if you’re thinking of responding to a facebook friend and you want to head off potential problems, best to have an agreement on boundaries with old buddies and share the news about old contacts openly.

Therapists’ offices are filling with couples who are finding that its not just match.com that they worry about – it’s reunion.com and all the other sites designed to put people back in touch (no pun intended).

It’s one thing if you’re single and this is another option for dating material. The problem is when a spouse’s starts to communicate with someone from the past. It’s especially a problem if the first contact wasn’t noted in the ‘how was your day’ conversation. “I didn’t think anything about it,” doesn’t really fly when the contact is a blonde, beautiful neurosurgeon who just happens to be in town for a convention and has suggested meeting for a drink to catch up. The reconnect can be interpreted in various ways, some of which are not good for the marriage.

So if you’re thinking of responding to a facebook friend and you want to head off potential problems, best to have an agreement on boundaries with old buddies and share the news about old contacts openly.

1. He . . . → Read More: Relationship Red Flags]]> A recent book by M. Gary Neuman, summarizes a lot of theories about infidelity in relationships In The Truth About Cheating, Mr. Neuman analyzes the hows and whys of men’s infidelity. According to Mr. Neuman, the following are signs that can be red flags that there may be a problem in your marriage.

1. He Spends More Time away from Home.

2. You have sex infrequently.

3. He avoids contact with you.

4. He criticizes you more.

5. He starts more fights with you.

But the good news here is that there are concrete strategies to turn around what might just be a period of disconnection and not infidelity. Recognizing these signs is important in staying attuned to your partner and as a sign that the relationship is out of balance and that some corrective action will be helpful.

1.  He . . . → Read More: Relationship Red Flags]]> A recent book by M. Gary Neuman,  summarizes a lot of theories about infidelity in relationships  In The Truth About Cheating,  Mr. Neuman analyzes the hows and whys of men’s infiedity.  According to Mr. Neuman, the following are signs that can be red flags that there may be a problem in your marriage.

1.  He Spends More Time away from Home.

2. You have sex infrequently.

3. He avoids contact with you.

4.  He criticizes you more.

5. He starts more fights with you.

But the good news here is that there are concrete strategies to turn around what might just be a period of disconnection and not infidelity.  Recognizing these signs is important in staying attuned to your partner and as a sign that the relationship is out of balance and that some corrective action will be helpful.