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Signs of Infidelity

Merry Frons — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 05:07:43 +0000

There are 7 signs that often accompany infidelity. It’s important to realize that there can be other causes for these situations and the presence of these factors does not mean your partner is unfaithful, only that these are often complaints of spouses before they have found out that their partner has been involved in an affair.
1/ Partner is withdrawn, distant and can seem depressed.
2/ There is increased anger, criticism and less patience than usual
3/ Your partner may complain of feeling trapped and make accusations that you are controlling.
4/ They may be spending more time away from home, not available or away on business.
5/ They may pay more attention to their appearance.
6/ They may become inappropriately defensive.
7/ You may experience changes in the frequency of sex, your partner making more demands for “private time” and spending time on the computer late at night.

After the Storm

Merry Frons — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 05:58:52 +0000

Esther Perel, a New York psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity, writes about 3 patterns she has noted in couples relationships after an affair.

Relationship Red Flags

Merry Frons — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 05:33:47 +0000

A recent book by M. Gary Neuman, summarizes a lot of theories about infidelity in relationships In The Truth About Cheating, Mr. Neuman analyzes the hows and whys of men’s infiedity. According to Mr. Neuman, the following are signs that can be red flags that there may be a problem in your marriage.

1. He Spends More Time away from Home.

2. You have sex infrequently.

3. He avoids contact with you.

4. He criticizes you more.

5. He starts more fights with you.

But the good news here is that there are concrete strategies to turn around what might just be a period of disconnection and not infidelity. Recognizing these signs is important in staying attuned to your partner and as a sign that the relationship is out of balance and that some corrective action will be helpful.