The Magic 5-1 Ratio

The marital and relationship expert, John Gottman, is known for his 5-1 ratio of positive to negative statements between partners as a necessity in marital or relationship harmony. This ratio can predict the success or failure of a relationship.

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Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage

There are certain issues that should be discussed before you tie the knot. Knowing each other’s views prevents major relationship ruptures later on. Key issues are:

1/Having children and who will be primary caretaker. 2/Finances – what are expectations of each other and clear ideas about spending and saving. 3/Being able to discuss sexual issues . . . → Read More: Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage

What Pets Can Teach Us

An article titled What Pets Teach Us About Marriage on the website Lifegems About Marriage zeroes in on the qualities that make a great relationship – qualities that many of us experience with our pets. Check out what we’re forgetting to do in our relationships that our canine friends instinctively express.

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What Makes People Happy

A recent article in the New York Post cited 6 factors that were components of a happy lifestyle. The study was conducted in Britain and polled 4,000 adults on their lifestyles and asked them to rate their degree of happiness on a scale. The results culled from this sampling were surprising. Money and possessions didn’t . . . → Read More: What Makes People Happy

Keeping Your Brain Healthy

Neural imaging is showing that walking has even more benefits – it helps keep the brain healthy. Read this article to see the details.

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Why We Have Sex

“Generally speaking, men seek sex because they like how it feels. Women, although they very well may also derive pleasure from the act, are generally more interested in the relationship enhancement aspects of sex. Researchers describe these differences as body-centered versus person-centered sex.

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Talking Does Increase Sense of Connection

Neural imagining demonstrates that talking and listening actually increases the sense of connectedness. The mirroring technique in Imago can increase the connection in your relationship.  When you feel disconnected from your partner do your make an attempt to connect?

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7 Kinds of Intimacy

When we speak of intimacy some people think of sex, some think of emotional support.  I came across a list of 7 different kinds of intimacy or perhaps it could be termed 7 components that are often present in a satisfying and intimate relationship.  Here they are:

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Many Couples Give Up Without Really Trying

An article in the New York Times cited the statistic that two-thirds of couples from a recent study never got counseling before deciding to divorce. The article makes the point that couples can struggle with an issue that can have a simple fix that they are not aware of from their perspective. Leaving the issue . . . → Read More: Many Couples Give Up Without Really Trying

Is Porn Harmful to Your Relationship?

Many therapists have changed their attitudes about pornography in the age of the internet. There was a time, before the world wide web, when the view of pronography was that it was often crude and objectified people, especially women, but that it didn’t pose the danger that therapists see now.

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