Avoiding the Holiday Blues – Riding the Ups & Downs

The holidays can be tough to navigate for most of us with the added stress of expectations.  But for those in recovery it can be a mindfield of sorts.  Everywhere you go people are handing out drinks and good cheer is expected.  Here are some tips for staying safe and sober through the next few . . . → Read More: Avoiding the Holiday Blues – Riding the Ups & Downs

Holiday Cheer – Avoiding the Pitfalls

Happiness is having a large, loving, close knit family – in another city – can hold true at this time of year.  I hear the horror stories in my office.  Highly successful executives suddenly feel five years old when Mom or Dad  tells them not to snack before dinner. Check out these tips on how . . . → Read More: Holiday Cheer – Avoiding the Pitfalls

It Matters More Than You Know

Do you get coffee for your partner or spouse in the morning?  How often to you show affection to your partner? Generosity in your relationship matters more than you know. Those are the findings of a a recent study of 2,870 men and women in the Virginia National Marriage Project reported in the New York . . . → Read More: It Matters More Than You Know

Holidays Are Coming

The holidays are in full swing. Menorahs and Christmas wreaths – lights and trees. The store windows are fun. I love Lord and Taylor’s little scenes and the minature trains down the street from my office. But when it starts to feel that there are too many things to do and too many crowds – . . . → Read More: Holidays Are Coming

Sometimes Darkness

When I was writing my dissertation I had to make a definition of terms page so that the specific meaning of the way I was using terms would be clearly understood.  When I read the NY Times Modern Love Column on Sunday Novemember 27th, I thought of the meanings for the word “love.”  I thought . . . → Read More: Sometimes Darkness

Affair Proof Your Relationship

What is it that keeps some relationships connected and faithful and others struggling with the devastation of infidelity? Tammy Nelson’s article in the Huffington Post provides some tips that are helpful to keep things on track.  Dr. Nelson identifies opportunity as the number one reason that one has an affair.  I would say that opportunities . . . → Read More: Affair Proof Your Relationship

After the affair – both sides

Many of the unhappiest couples to enter my office are struggling with the after effects of an affair.  When I see the misery in their eyes I can almost hear them thinking that they wish they could just turn back the clock.  Yesterday’s NY Times article was written from the perspective of someone who had . . . → Read More: After the affair – both sides

Facebook and the Green-eyed Monster

Does Facebook contribute to jealousy and other relationship problems? The answer according to recent research studies says that it does. How can one use social networking and not experience problems in their primary relationship? Open communication is key. Let your partner know who you’re communicating with. Don’t use facebook in a way that it functions . . . → Read More: Facebook and the Green-eyed Monster

Are You a Retrosexual?

An article in the Boston Phoenix by Deidre Fulton, has added yet another word to the internet generation cultural-sexual lexicon. Retrosexual is the new term for people who reconnect with someone from their past (high school sweetheart, college crush) and the reunion becomes romantic or physical.

Therapists’ offices are filling with couples who are finding . . . → Read More: Are You a Retrosexual?

Bringing Back the Erotic Charge

One of the most common situations that comes up in marriage counseling sessions is when one partner’s desire for sex is much lower than the other’s. Many times this happens when couples have been together for some time and have gotten into a lifestyle that is routine and perhaps, child centered. When there’s a lot . . . → Read More: Bringing Back the Erotic Charge