Emotional Flooding: How do we Stop the Conflict?

By Merry Frons, on January 22nd, 2009%

What’s the first thing to do when you and your partner are locking horns?  I’m talking about situations where you each believe that your partner just needs to wake up and see the light and you  feel that you keep having the same argument over and over and nothing gets resolved.

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Never Assume, Never Expect

By Merry Frons, on January 22nd, 2009%

Many couples that I see in my practice have difficulty with expectations and assumptions.  When we start working on improving the skills of communicating clearly, with positive regard and openess, I encourage couples to work on putting their assumptions and expectations about each other into words.  It never fails to surprise . . . → Read More: Never Assume, Never Expect

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Keeping Your Balance on the Tightrope

By Merry Frons, on January 22nd, 2009%

Many clients come to therapy because they are fixated on either the past or the future.  Their focus on what might happen in the future creates anxiety.  What happened in the past colors their thoughts and limits their ability to be ‘in the moment’.  This is where the practice of mindfulness, the ability to . . . → Read More: Keeping Your Balance on the Tightrope

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Learning How to Communicate

By Merry Frons, on January 22nd, 2009%

When couples come into my office their problems usually have common themes.  They  express problems with “communication.”  Either “we can’t agree on anything,” or “I’m afraid to say what I really think because it will cause an argument.”  Couples often feel trapped, caught in a negative dynamic that they can’t break.  I rarely encounter . . . → Read More: Learning How to Communicate

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